While my friends are absolutely not surprised by this (which is hurtful by the way) my new friends are always surprised to learn about my complete lack of a romantic past.
I'm basically the ghost of no boyfriends past. Like no one wants to hold my hand, or hover over me grunting. I'm twenty years old already, I should probably have a long list of men that I just check off like some kind of Santa's list. I don't, though. I'm sure that a lot of you feel the way; whether you're heterosexual, homosexual, pansexual, asexual, sometimes it seems that no one wants a piece of your hot body. Even if it's SUPER HOT!
Okay, I'll admit maybe I should lay off a couple fries but I'm generally a good person. I love animals, will help a bug find it's way out of a building and into it's habitat, and am decently intelligent. I've seen girls who people might describe as "absolutely bat-shit crazy and horrible" get guys left and right like it's no problem. It's truly always kind of bothered me that I was never that type of girl, the one that guys seemed to be undeniably drawn to. The girls who had this super power were never even the MOST pretty or the MOST interesting. Somehow everything just clicked.
I've kind of done some reflecting and realized that it isn't because I'm hideous (maybe that's still not false) or disgustingly boring, but that I actually don't create opportunities. Now I'm not talking about being a complete stalker and sneaking into someone's window and making out with their sleeping body, because that would get you arrested, but I'm talking about making time where you are approachable.
You can't always be talking to your friends if you want someone to come up to you. Do you know how scary it is to cut your way into someone's conversation? It's really scary. Now imagine doing it to a girl you think is super adorable that could reject you in front of all her beautiful friends. Horrifying. Most decent guys won't even risk it. Hell, I wouldnt either
DO YOU TALK TO GUYS!!?!?! This is my biggest problem. I'm constantly complaining about how single I am, but I literally talk to no guy. None. Nada. There are barely any guys I'm even friends with, let alone try to talk to on a regular basis. If I'm not giving them the chance to talk to me, what are they supposed to do? Flag me down? Something important to do is talk to guys as you would women, and actually try to open your circle a bit. Even if you don't think the guy is hot, he could be a great friend. Also HE COULD HAVE A HOT friend. Stay open, amiable, and approachable.
EYE CONTACT! MAKE IT! They will LOOK at you if they like you this is the biggest sign, ever. No one looks at things they find disgusting. Who would do that? Unless it's like you're an alien that stumbled onto planet earth, literally no one will stare at you unless they like you.
Lastly DON'T BE AFRAID. Say whatever the FUCK you want. Do what you want.
I'm so tired of seeing all these rules. That's what got me scared in the first place to ever make a move, thinking about the fact I could break one of the "rules" and someone wouldn't like me.
Guess what, there are no rules!
No one will hate you because you don't text back 3 days later or that you laugh with a snort. It's stupid to act a certain way to get someone to like you. I PROMISE you that someone will like you the way you act. React as you want and someone will reciprocate.
The ones who reject you are going to be sad and lonely (or dating someone who is lame and probably doesn't even have a nice butt like you do).
So chill out and keep your head up!
<3 Love You ALL!
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